Losing a spouse is heartbreaking. During this difficult time, it’s important to take things one step at a time. This list is here to help you stay organized and gently guide you through the process. First Steps (Within the First Few Days) Obtain multiple copies of the death certificate (at least 10–15). Needed for banks, insurance, vehicle registration, pensions, etc. Notify immediate family and close friends. Arrange funeral, memorial, or burial services (if not pre-planned)